Events of the Month
June 2: NO SCHOOL | Parent - Teacher Interviews - There is babysitting available during your interview.
June 10 from 8am - 12pm: Garage Sale
June 16 from 2:30pm - 3:30pm: Picnic and Sports Day with Dad in the Casa playground!
June 21 from 6pm - 7pm: Casa Graduation Part 1
June 22: Last Day of School
June 23: NO SCHOOL | Summer Concert & Graduation Ceremony Part 2 - Come and enjoy a delicious potluck lunch and beautiful songs sung by your children.
June 25: Parent Association End - of - Year Picnic
June 26 - 30: SCHOOL CLOSED | Prep Week - Summer program begins Monday July 3rd.
Did you know...
On Friday May 19 all the teachers at Kaban had a great experience listening to Dr. Stuart Shanker. He is a Distinguished Research Professor Emeritus of Philosophy at York University and the CEO of the MEHRIT Center, Ltd. His speech on Learning and Limbic allowed us to have a better understanding of how the brain functions under stress, affecting learning and behavior. Children from a young age can be taught to self-regulate. We can help their learning by improving our own stress awareness and responding to their needs before engaging in cognitive tasks. If we recognize the need to break the stress cycle it will improve learning and the classroom experience. Dr. Shankar explained how Maria Montessori was ahead of her time with her important methods of observing the children and following their needs to create a peaceful environment and optimal brain state for healthy development and learning.This talk gave teachers up- to- date information that can help them guide parents towards helping their children become independent, happy and healthy members of society. P.D. Days are an Important part of Kaban Montessori School,We thank all our families for your support and understanding
This year’s Summer Festival will be held on June 23rd at the Erin Mills United Church on 3010 The Collegeway (Winston Churchill and Collegeway). Children will arrive at 9:30 am and the concert will begin at 10:00 am. Potluck lunch to follow. A sign up sheet for what finger food each child is bringing is available at the office foyer. Dismissal is at 1:00 pm.
We wish you all a happy Summer and look forward to seeing you all in September, 2017.
Teach by being an Example not by correcting
The most powerful tool parents have for sharing their way of life and their values is by the example they set. The child will imitate your way of walking, talking, the vocabulary you use, how you handle different objects, your emotions, your manners, taste and the respect and consideration (or lack of it) you have for others.
Children do not understand the languages of reasoning until around the age of six. They need clear demonstrations along with words. Children will understand and get the message that we want to give them if we offer very clear and direct choices, instead of giving them extensive ‘talks’ of how they are supposed to behave or give them a lot of options from where to choose from. As they grow, they will have the opportunity to have more options to choose from, but we have to start with very few. Here are some examples of how we can offer children choices:
- “Do you want to put your shoes on yourself, or do you want me to put your shoes on?”
- “Do you need help getting down from that table or can you do it yourself?”
- “Do you want to wear the red gloves or the blue ones?”
- “Are you ready for bed or do you want to have a story first?”
- “Do you want your apple first or your pasta?”(Instead of asking your child just to eat his/her food)
Remember, children are not interested in being told what to do, but they are very interested in being given choices.
10 Little Reminders
for (even the best) Parents
I’m not perfect. I am a loving, well-meaning, very caring, sometimes forgetful, often-busy parent. This, I think, puts me in the same boat with a whole lot of other people. Sometimes it helps to have a little reminder of all those good-parenting practices we really know deep down, but can sometimes forget in the hustle and bustle of our daily lives. So here, inspired by Maria Montessori’s great wisdom, is a list of ten helpful tips for us not-quite-perfect parents.
- Don’t forget the basics. Is your child getting enough sleep? Is she eating a healthful diet? Keep bedtime calm and consistent. Read or tell stories before bed. Keep bedtime the same throughout the week. Also, help your child learn to like nutritious foods by offering healthful options, but don’t force the child to eat. Limit alternatives and beverages other than water. Talk with your children about foods. Ask them to describe the look, smell, and taste. Invite children to help with cooking and food preparation.
- Let them help. In addition to helping out in the kitchen, involve children with many of life’s daily duties, especially those they express interest in. Some examples: setting the table, sorting silverware or laundry, dusting, helping to wash the car, etc. Take the time to show them, step by step, how to accomplish such tasks successfully. Don’t forget Maria Montessori’s wise words, “Never help a child with a task at which he feels he can succeed.”
- Provide the right tools. You’d be amazed how much children can do for themselves, especially when they have child-sized tools, furnishings, or utensils. Provide low shelves so that they can put away their own toys, books, etc. Even very young children can return things to their proper places, hang their own coats, put laundry in the hamper, and much more. Start with things like: a step stool, a small table and chairs, a scaled-down dustpan and broom, or cups, bowls and spoons just the right size for little hands.
- Be consistently consistent. Unrushed, regular routines provide comfort and security. Whenever possible make every effort to allow adequate time, stick to schedules, and be on time (to school, etc.). Also, routinely leave some time unstructured to play, explore, or just “be.” When things are out of the “norm,” prepare your child for what’s to come. As much as possible, let them know in advance where you are going and when.
- Grace and courtesy. Teach and (more importantly) model the way you want your children to act. This is NOT the time for “do as I say, not as I do.” Use polite manners and speak respectfully. Make eye contact, get down on their level, but don’t talk “down” to them. Talk about patience, kindness, honesty, sharing, helpfulness, and any other principles you value. Don’t interrupt, and teach children to do the same.
- Read, read, read! Read together with your children every day. Make trips to the library or bookstore. Make reading a pleasant, enjoyable experience. Also, play games, sing, and tell jokes. Talk about words, and help them become aware of the sounds that make up the words. For example, ask “what begins with mmm?” or “what rhymes with cat?”
- Give the gift of gab. Our children learn words and language through listening to us. Talk to your children at every and any opportunity. When you are in the car, talk about what you are seeing out the window. When you are in the grocery store, name the various foods as you cruise the aisles. You may feel silly doing this at first, but remember that you are giving your child the precious gift of language and a rich vocabulary.
- Stop and smell the roses. If possible, get outside with your children every day. Take walks together. Let the child set the pace. Stop and take notice of your surroundings. Talk about it, “what do you see/ hear/ smell/ etc.?” Let the child have a place (could just be a flowerpot) to grow things. Hang a birdfeeder and watch the birds together. Bundle up and go outside even when it’s cold or raining. Or help your child start a nature journal or collection.
- Safety first! Teach your child to be safety-savvy. Most of us parents have “child-proofed” our homes, and we’ve tried to think of everything. The only drawback is that our children aren’t always at home. Explain the dangers of electric sockets, matches, heavy doors and lids, water, stairs, etc. Also, teach your child his address, phone number, and how to call 911. And finally, make sure your kids learn to swim.
- Continue your own education. Build on your existing knowledge and gain a deeper understanding of your child’s stages of development. Age of Montessori offers a wealth of knowledge through their website, webinars, and classes, including a convenient online Early Childhood Development course, which you can enjoy from the comfort of your own home. This six-week course is perfect for parents who want to experience their child’s development through understanding, awareness, and joy.
—by Emily on 2015/10/29
About the Author: Emily
Language of Encouragement
Phrases which stimulate acceptance (Instead of “good”, “great”, “excellent”)
- I like the way you handled that.
- I like the way you tackled that problem.
- What did you think about that?
- Since you are not satisfied, what do you think you can do so you will be pleased with it?
Phrases which stimulate confidence and value:
- Knowing you, I’m sure you’ll do fine (response).
- You’ll make it! Keep at it.
- I like that you don’t give up.
- I have confidence in your judgement.
- That’s a tough one, but I’m sure you’ll work it out.
Phrases that focus on contributions, assets, and appreciation:
- Thanks that helped a lot.
- It was helpful/thoughtful of you to_________________.
- Thanks, I really appreciate ______________, because it makes my (our) job(s) easier.
- I need your help with __________________.
- To the work group: I really enjoyed today. Thanks for your efforts.
- You have skill in _____________. Would you do this for us?
Phrases that recognize effort and improvement:
- It looks like you really worked on that one.
- It looks like you spent your time wisely thinking that through.
- I see you moving along.
- Look at the progress you’ve made. (Point out specific of improvement).
- You may not feel you’ve reached your goal, but look how far you’ve come.
Courtesy of Christine Sternat